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Twins Born in Different Years

I’ve always wondered what would happen if one twin was born just a few seconds after the other and then BAM! – it’s a new year. I mean, I guess nothing astronomically important would happen; it’s not an earth-shattering, sky-falling occurence. It’s just something that would be a really cool story! The video is about a time when this actually happened with a pair of twins! Can you imagine the story the twins can tell when they grow up?

I was also reading on USA Today that this same thing happened with another set of twins this New Year: (http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2014/01/02/twins-new-years-eve-day/4288519/).

But wait, if you can have two babies in different years, what about two different centuries – or even millennia? Well, looky here:
(http://nypost.com/2000/01/02/twins-are-born-in-two-different-millennia/).

Isn’t that amazing? For twins to be born into different millennia…wow. That would be quite a story to tell. 1000 CE was during the Heian Period in Japan, the Song Dynasty in China – during this year, the Muslim world was in its “Golden Age”. 2000 CE marked the release of the Playstation 2 in Japan, and it also had “Dora the Explorer” debut on Nickelodeon. It is amazing that these two babies were born at that moment of transition from the 2nd to 3rd millennium. Now THAT is the story of a millennium!

So, yes, twins can be born in different years, different centuries, and even different millennia. It can actually happen!

As a side note: Even if the parents TRY to make it so that the children are born in different years/centuries/millennia (as with the case of the mother of the children born in different millennia), I don’t think that subtracts from the awesome-factor of the birth. I actually just think that it makes those parents pretty cool to actually plan to let their children be a part of a such a major event in history (Humans made it to 2000 and the world didn’t end…Yay!).

All in all, you get a good story, and the twins’ birth is just something that is pretty darn cool.

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Twin Stroller With Only ONE Twin?

“When I have a kid, I want to put him in one of those strollers for twins, then run around the mall looking frantic.” – Steven Wright

I must say, this is one of the most remarkably hilarious answers to the “What would you do if you had twins?” question. Sure, there is always the “I’ll have their names rhyme!” answer or the “Let’s name them Coco and Puff!” (or any other stupid combo-name) reply. But this, ladies and gentlemen, is pure genius. 

When Stephanie and I were really little, our parents would take us everywhere in our double-wide twin stroller. The stroller was nothing fancy, not when compared to the other twin strollers of today…for example:

1.  The “LOOK INTO MY EYES!” twin stroller…

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2. The “double-decker” twin stroller…

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3. The “color-coordinated” stroller…

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…and finally… (creepiest for last!)

4. The “HELP ME OUTTA HERE!” twin stroller…

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…see what I mean? Twins these days have it good (or bad?). In comparison with those fine contraptions (not that they don’t look pretty cool!), our stroller was pretty normal. But, to get back on topic, those were the good old days where I didn’t have to rely on my short little legs to get around! 

 So, if someone were to walk around the mall with one child in one side of the stroller and look frantically around for “the second one”, that would be the BEST. JOKE. EVER. Well, I guess you *should* make sure people know it’s a joke afterwards though!

Just don’t let this:

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Lead to this:

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Thanks for reading!

Twin Teleportation??

Hello everyone! I wanted to use this post to 1) show you a video I think is awesome, and 2) tell you a story about a (kind of) similar “prank” Stephanie and I tried to pull off during a wizarding duel.

And before you jump to the conclusion that twins have magic (which you would be right in concluding…of course twins have magic… don’t all twins get Hogwarts letters?), let me explain.

First, the video. It features Jack and Finn from JacksGap, a YouTube Channel run by the two twin brothers. It’s always been fun to watch their videos about twins and laugh, because I definitely know what they’re talking about whenever they mention a common question or something along those lines. While not all of their videos are twin related, I would recommend checking them out at {http://www.youtube.com/user/JacksGap}. One of their recent videos, where they were featured on a channel called Prank vs. Prank, is a great example of the fun you can have when you’re an identical twin. In the video, they ask random people to take a picture of one of them, and when someone distracts the photo-taker, the other twin pops up on the balcony above, making it seem like the twin below teleported to the balcony. I’ve got to say, it was pretty convincing.

The reactions in the video kinda followed these guidelines: “It’s magic! He teleported. Definitely. Wait, no, he’s a twin (*facepalm*)!”

So, onto the story. Stephanie and I actually have tried a similar version of the prank in the video – except we weren’t trying to prank anyone (honest!). But, we were practicing our three D’s: destination, determination, and deliberation.

If, at this point, you are really confused about what I’m trying to say, you probably have not read Harry Potter! In a three-week-long interim Harry Potter class that Stephanie and I took at our high school, one of our final assignments was to make up a Harry Potter duel with a small group. Stephanie and I were in the same group, so we decided to try to make it seem like we were one wizard/witch who was apparating and disapparating during the duel. I’ve got to say, it didn’t work quite as well as Jack and Finn managed in their video (that is, it really didn’t work at all), but hey, it was fun! Just one of the many pranks you can (attempt) to pull off as an identical twin!

Hello! After the reception of the previous post, which offered 5 suggestions for parents of twins, Stephanie and I have decided to write another post for parents. Once again, all of the writing here should be regarded as opinion and not as fact. These three things are completely random! If any of these help a parent, we’d be happy! As with the last post, I believe twins may relate to this more than other multiples (only because I speak from the experiences I have had as an identical twin), but hopefully anyone can enjoy the post. Also, Stephanie and I may be completely different from your twins, because of course, all twins aren’t going to act and think the same. But enough with the disclaimers and hopes, let’s move on to the list. Here are three things you should not fret too much about if you have growing twins:

Image1. Your Twins Want To Go (or Not Go!) To the Same College: You may be concerned, as a parent, when you find yourself in your twins’ final year of high school. For one, you’re about to lose two of your favorite people in the world to a college which may be more than thirty minutes from home! That’s enough to bring a tear to your eye. And, in addition to your twins leaving, you know they will have to become more independent than ever before, and that they will have to go ahead into the world without (too much) of your help and guidance. However, every parent has to deal with these worries – so what’s different with twins? Twins, in addition to leaving their parents, also have to make the decision if they want to stay with their twin or not. Assuming acceptances go as planned, should you be concerned if your twins want to stay together in college – or even if they want to separate? In my opinion, it really depends on your twins. We’ve heard stories of twins who were so sick of each other that they wanted to get away from each other ASAP. But, we’ve also heard stories about twins who were roommates who even majored in the same field and worked together! So, as a parent, it is completely understandable that you might worry about the direction your twins might go in… but it is also completely okay to let your twins sort out the direction they set off in themselves. I think the job of a parent is to hold a flyswatter and hold off anyone who buzzes around your twins and tries to tell them whether or not they have to, or don’t have to, go to the same college. That decision is one of the biggest your twins will ever make, and with you keeping out the extra noise, hopefully they will make a decision that will make them (and you!) happy.

2. Your Twins Have All the Same Friends: So, your twins have finally gotten old enough to go to school. Be sure to take lots of pictures and smile unwaveringly as you watch them walk into the building for their first day of class- and try to keep your worries to a dull roar. Even though you are sending your twins away to school for the first time, one of the best things parents of twins can take heart in is that at least your twins have each other! However, I believe that this may sometimes be a worry of parents, because they are concerned that their twins won’t make any friends with the other children. Speaking from personal experience, I’ve got to say that having Stephanie with me in school did not stop me from making other friends; actually, I think it helped! People are so curious about twins, and naturally they come and talk to you, and want to know more about you. This may not be the case for all twins, but Stephanie and I always joke about how the “twin factor” at least makes approaching a potential friend so much easier. So, at least your initial worry is over – your twins have friends. And then, maybe, another worry sets in: your twins have all the same friends! In the back of your mind, you might think back to the endless piles of pamphlets and magazine articles you read about how twins have to be independent. I won’t agree completely with that. Independence is great, especially in getting each of your twins on their own two feet, and getting them to rely less and less on each other. However, I don’t believe that twins have to go so far as to find a different friend group! Sure, if your twins happen to make different friends and hang out in different groups, your worries are handled! But, if they have the same friends, I wouldn’t worry; Stephanie and I have always had the same friends, and I wouldn’t trade them for anyone. Independence is great, but if it doesn’t come naturally, don’t force it on your twins – let them forge friendships, regardless of whether their twin considers the same people friends or not.

Image 3. Your Twins Fight – A Lot: I remember in the previous post, Stephanie mentioned how having a twin is great, because you always have a best friend. I completely agree. And I also agree that you will always, always have someone to fight with. Let me throw in one more ALWAYS! Many people, when the meet us, get the impression that we are amazing friends. They’d be right in getting that impression. However, they always draw from that impression a conclusion which unfortunately is not true: twins never fight. “They’re best friends, they must have a twinly bond, why would they ever fight???”. Twins fight just like any other siblings, like any other group of friends… and the bad thing about a twin fight is that your opponent knows everything about you. And I mean everything! But you, as a parent, shouldn’t be concerned if your twins fight a lot. Actually, Stephanie and I usually get along really, really well. But if something sets us off, it might get pretty bad. But, the thing that you as a parent can hope for is that twins really do love each other – Stephanie and I never fight for more than a couple of hours. After that, we end up just laughing it off and going back to normal.

* On a side note, I feel like I have to mention that not all twins have this sort of “fight and laugh-it-off” relationship. If you feel like your twins might be drifting apart, I think you should try to sit down with them and see what is going on between them. I feel that, most times, twins will want to always be best friends, but I know sometimes that just won’t work. So, while you shouldn’t be too concerned if your twins fight often about mundane things like socks or waffles or tennis rackets, or maybe once and a while have a really big argument, I think you should be concerned if they are damaging their relationship as siblings. Just like any other person, we twins can get really mad at each other, and sometimes, especially if we are stubborn (Stephanie and I most certainly are!), a parent’s guidance might really help.

There you go, three things you shouldn’t worry about too much… because it is completely normal for twins to have times when they are not sure what to do. Just like anyone else. Twins are so lucky – they have someone right there with them, someone who knows them more than anyone else in the world (even more than their parents!). Sometimes, that relationship becomes strained, and they don’t know whether to stick together or stay apart. That’s where the parents come in – parents prod twins in the right direction, and in the end they let us sort out what would be best for ourselves. So, I would suggest that the parents of twins relax; look to your twins to know whether or not they should go to the same college. Let them find their friends while keeping a very special friend next to them always. And, finally, let them rough it out sometimes. If you’ve let them explore independence, and let them make their own decisions, I think they will make you happy no matter where they go in life.

Thanks so much for reading, and by all means leave Stephanie and I a comment if you have any further thoughts on these three points. While I’m not completely sure all twins (or parents) actually face all three of these little bumps in road in life, I’d love to know if you identified with one of them, or have a story about an experience with college, school, or fighting, or anything else which ever worried you when you were parenting your twins! And, as always, have fun with your twins, and don’t forget to enjoy your kids no matter how much they argue or cry or laugh endlessly (Stephanie and I would never stop laughing… I’m sure we drove our parents insane! They say they loved the sound, but I know that we can definitely be annoying when we don’t stop laughing for ten minutes straight!). I know our parents, and Stephanie and I, would love to hear from you!

Photo (college): http://collegefinancialcoach.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/09/College1.jpg

Original Photo (arguing): http://image.shutterstock.com/display_pic_with_logo/1073294/111879179/stock-vector-two-stick-figures-fighting-and-swearing-111879179.jpg

 

For All the Parents: 5 Tips For Parents of Twins

Carolyn and I don’t really know what it was like from a first-hand perspective when we were really young, so we had to go to the experts — our parents — to get some true-and-tested tips for new parents of twins. This post is more specific to identical twins, but I think all twins may be able to appreciate some of these pointers. 

 DISCLAIMER: All of these pointers are just opinions and our own personal suggestions, and we are not saying in any way that you should do any of these things. Just make your own adjustments based on your twins, and above all just enjoy your children and have fun. 

 1. Don’t Worry About Telling Them Apart: You, as a parent, will know which one is which after spending time with your twins. Even if you can’t tell your twins apart by their looks immediately, because they may be really identical, you will start to be able to see differences in their looks and personalities as they grow older. Our mom today doesn’t mix us up at all; she says we look nothing alike!

Image 2. Most Twins Sleep Better Together: So, are you having to wake up in the middle of the night? All parents have to do that! But, there might be a way to let you sleep a little longer. Maybe try putting them in the same crib, and letting them cuddle together. They’ll be happier together, and hopefully you’ll get a few more minutes of sleep!

 3. You Don’t Have to Do the “Twin Dressing” Game: People around you will be thrilled and overjoyed that you have had twins. The attention your twins get can be overwhelming, and tiring, at times. You don’t have to pander to that excitement (ie. you don’t have to dress them identically everyday). Also, you don’t have to always answer every single twin question that comes your way. Just enjoy your children.

     *On a personal note, Carolyn and I lived in a touristy area when we were younger, and whenever our parents took us out in our double-wide baby stroller, there would always be people trying to touch our hair or take pictures with us, or even randomly pick us up. In some cultures, twins are considered good luck, and people will want some of that luck through touching, or pictures. As a parent, be wary of this, don’t be overprotective, but don’t let a bunch of tourists swarm your kids. 

 4. You Don’t Have to Split Your Twins Up: In the later years, when your twins get to school age, the school will begin to insist that you, as a parent, make your twins separate into different classes. There is nothing wrong with letting your twins stay in the same class for a couple of years (Carolyn and I were in the same class until second grade). The idea is sound, because separating your twins could lead to them finding new friends, but oftentimes twins are each other’s best friends. So, it’s really up to you and your twins; the school’s wishes should come after. 

      *On a side note regarding teachers and staff…Many teachers can’t tell identical twins apart, just like any other person. But, you should make sure that the teacher at least tries to use your twin’s names when addressing them. I remember, when I was little, some of our teachers would just call us “twin”, even when we weren’t in the same class. It felt impersonal, and I wish now that the teacher would have tried to tell us apart (because my name is not “twin”). Now don’t get me wrong: I’ve had some brilliant teachers who put a lot of effort into telling my sister and I apart. Even if they got our names wrong sometimes, its a million times better that just being called “twin”.

Image 5. A Built-In Best Friend: Your kids will always have a playmate, and someone to talk to. People will try to tell you to separate your twins, even when they’re just playing together, but if they don’t want to, you shouldn’t. Best friends want to be together. Just realize, while they will always have a playmate, they will always have someone to argue with. But don’t all best friends have those days?

Our mom had one last pointer — encourage your twins to be individuals, but don’t be surprised if, as individuals, they still want to do the same things. Both of them liking tennis does not mean they have to be the doubles team of the century (believe me, people want you to be a doubles team if you’re a twin). If they both play piano, don’t just make them do duets! Let Imagethem find their own style, but if they want to be matching for Halloween, let them do it. 

As a final note, don’t take the books too literally. You know, those books. All of the studies and publishings on the “mysteries” of twins, and all of the “right” things to do with your twins. Treat them as regular kids, and above all, enjoy every second you have with them. 

 If you are a parent of a twin, or a twin who has had some of these experiences, please share them with us in a comment. Do you have any other pointers for parents? Any stories? I’m sure new parents, and certainly Carolyn and I, would love to hear any input!

photos: http://multiples.about.com/od/picturesphotos/ig/Sleeping-Twins-Photo-Gallery/blgal280.–D7.htm; http://amazingdata.com/annual-twins-festival-in-twinsburg-ohio/http://i.i.cbsi.com/cnwk.1d/i/tim/2012/09/07/BryanBrothers_Main_1_562x316.jpg 

The Everyday Life of a Twin – Common Comments

If you’re a twin, I hope you’ll get a kick out of this video, because Stephanie and I were laughing so hard. We’ve heard every single one of the comments and questions in this video. If you’re a twin, do you have any funny stories involving some of these? Do people say these things to you? What about other things? And, if you’re not a twin, what are some common questions that you hear often? Don’t get me wrong, we love when people ask about twins, but it is fun to see little bits of our lives played in a video, because we really do get asked these all the time!

A Secret Language?

If you’re in need of your daily dose of cuteness, then watch this video, featuring two baby twins talking to each other in their secret “twin-baby-extra-top-secret language”. Enjoy!

Airport Incidents – Part II

This is part two of the “Airport Incident” saga, I hope you enjoy this as a continuation of Stephanie’s post!

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You and your sister are receiving twin stares right, left, and center as you make your way toward your gate. One lady stops and chats with you for a while, because she is an identical twin too. Your wait for your plane is uneventful, and finally the voice over the speaker announces that each boarding group should make its way to their boarding lanes. Swift shuffling ensues as businessmen, businesswomen, already-crying babies, drowsy toddlers, and everyone in between rushes to get into line. As for now, everyone is too concentrated on swarming as fast as possible to the guy at the ticket scanner. 

When your turn comes, the man looks up and smiles, and for a moment the wild scurrying dulls a little. He doesn’t ask the obvious question, but he does laugh as he scans us through, “Are these the notorious twins I’ve been hearing about?”

You smile and laugh, because you know there is no way he’d heard of you and your sister before. You make sure to tell him that you are, in fact, the notorious twins he’d been hearing about all morning, and you all laugh as you make your way down the ramp. 

After man-handling your carry-on into the overhead compartment, you fall back into your middle seat, your sister sitting to your right near the window. You mourn the days when they used to give out pretzels while you wait for the plane to fill. A woman in her thirties sits down after a few minutes in the aisle seat, scooting her purse under the seat in front of her as she makes room for the trickling line of passengers inching toward their seats. 

After twenty minutes, the plane doors close, and within the hour you’re in the air. You listen to your new playlist and pretend to be asleep. By the end of the flight, your ponytail has somehow become crooked and your hair is sticking out everywhere. You yawn, and reach down and grab your backpack from under the seat. The lady to your left never once looked up from her magazine. As the people in the front of the plane exit, you prepare your escape route and time it down to the seconds: give other bags to your sister, open the overhead compartment and drag out the carry-on, proceed to pull it down without decapitating anyone, and then speed down the aisle so that none of the people behind you get all grumbly. However, you realize the woman in the aisle is staring at you and your sister… oops, she’s realized. You smile, and she eventually realizes she should probably get moving or the ruffled passengers in the rows behind would start to riot. 

You say goodbye to the flight attendants, and walk/run to the basement level to hop on the tram to the baggage claim, where you still get lots of twin stares and smiles. Even though you’re in a rush, you still manage to give a slight smile in return, but then you are whisked away. It is nice to bring a smile to someone’s face, and by smiling back, hopefully you make their day, because most times, they make your day too. Your relatives meet you at the baggage claim, and your journey through the airport concludes. 

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What could you do to make someone’s runway a little brighter?

So there you go, a typical journey for Stephanie and I through our travel days. I hope we didn’t bore you to death, and that you at least found this mildly interesting. We really do love to interact with interested people, and exchange smiles and laughs, because really, it is so fun to be a twin. I really wouldn’t trade it for the world. So, have you thought of any more awesome airport adventures you want to share? What kind of things do strangers do that make your day? Please comment and let us know!

Picture: http://nmalliance.files.wordpress.com/2012/04/runway.jpg

Airport Incidents- Part I

In our family, we travel a lot. Meaning we come into contact with the busy, crowded world of airports quite often. Meaning, we get to deal with the lovely souls who transport you and your bags to yourfinal destination. A lot. So here are a couple of experiences we have had involving that lady at the check-in counter, that guy looking at your passport during security, and even that poor soul who must scan 300 tickets to get everyone on the plane. Even though we’ve hinted at the adventures twins (especially identical twins and other identical multiples) face in society, we’ve decided to elaborate on this one location, because really, who doesn’t like airport stories.

Let me begin to take you through a typical airport visit for my sister and I.  I will be your guide for the first part of our journey, and Carolyn will finish up the epic tale of airport encounters in Part II of this saga.

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You start your day early, punching random items (that failed to make it into the suitcase) into your backpack. You stuff the soggy cereal into your cheeks as you try to update your itunes playlists before you leave for the airport. You conduct the obligatory “water bottle inspection” of your backpack, and you make sure your pocket knife stays on the counter. There, nothing can get you arrested or detained. Check. The drive to the airport lulls you to sleep — but not quite, as you, of course, arrive at the airport just as you finally get comfortable in your seatbelt. But not to worry, you just have to make it to the plane, and then you can sit for another four hours.

First encounter: The lady at the check-in counter. After waiting in line (after all the other zombie-people have made their way to security), you drag/kick your bags to the counter. You spend five minutes trying to get the attention of the lady behind the booths, and after awhile you accomplish your goal. For your sleepy self, that’s almost the same as getting 50 points for Gryffindor! *Cue applause* The employee clearly had just downed her first cup of coffee, but it had yet to kick in — she looked even more zombified than everyone else. When she asks to see you and your sister’s passports, you hand them to her quickly, not wanting to hold up the other crazy-eyed people in line. And then, the magic happens. The coffee kicks in as her eyes blink furiously to clear away the cobwebs of sleep, and she smiles.

“Are you guys twins?

You quickly reply, “Yes”,  as you wait patiently for her to get on with the check-in process (note: the “im-” before “-patiently” is silent). But really, you know she’s a nice lady trying to get to know you, and you smile because really, you do enjoy talking to people about being a twin.

ImageSecond encounter: the security guy. As you make your way to the next line of fire, security, you begin to perk up a bit because you had just had a pleasant conversation with the check-in lady, even though it was 3:00 AM in the morning. And hey, you had survived the zombies, so that was enough to drive you onwards. Around now, all of the zombies were turning out to be businessmen and professionals, teachers and bleary-eyed children, and everyone in between. You ready your passport and boarding pass for quick access, and make sure your sister does the same. You know what it’s like to be that person who holds up the line, so you make sure you’re prepared. The TSA man at the podium looks like he’s had a few too many cups of coffee, and his pen whirls across boarding passes as you slowly inch toward the podium. He only looks up when he compares the ruffled passenger with the awful photo on their passport. But this is the moment that always catches even the most hardened TSA employee unprepared, because, as you and your sister stand and try to look cheerful, a smile lights his face as he glances back and forth between 12-year-old you and your sister, and back to your realtime selves.

“You’re twins, right?”

You reply, “Yes”, but this time with a definite air of patience. No need to rush the guy. You actually think it’s nice he’s taken interest.

He smiles, leans back in his chair, and screws up his mustache. “Okay, I’ve got a 50-50 chance, right?”

You and your sister try to look as identical as possible as he looks back and forth from picture to picture and back to your faces. He guesses wrong, but everyone in line has a good laugh anyway as he waves you on through security. Nothing like a cool twin encounter to lighten up anyone’s day.

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That’s it for my part of the “Airport Incidents” saga, and I hope you look forward to Carolyn’s post next time. If you’ve ever had any cool airport incidents, twinly or not, it would be wonderful to hear about them. Again, who doesn’t like airport stories?

Photo Credit: http://www.publicdomainpictures.net/view-image.php?image=16403

The “Twinly We”

ImageI’m hoping many of you have heard of the “royal we”, or the “majestic plural”. The “royal we” is used by a sovereign when referring to themselves in a formal address. Maybe you’ve heard the use of the “royal we” before, in a movie or book or even on television. It probably sounded strange to you when you heard it, because “we” is not meant to be used to refer solely to oneself, it is meant to encompass oneself and others.

Believe it or not, another group of people besides royalty and sovereigns sometimes use “we” to refer to themselves. Those people are twins (and the obligatory nod to all other multiples – they simply have a bigger degree of “we” when they say it!).

Would you find it weird if a normal person, not some ruler or noble or queen, in your school or office suddenly referred to themselves using “we” instead of “I”? Before you assume this person is crazy and maybe has some hidden desire to conquer the world and use the royal pronoun, consider asking whether or not that person has a twin! If they confirm that they do have a multiple, you can relax because (most likely) this person does not have a diabolical plan to control the world and use the majestic plural. They may just be a twin lapsing back into a habit which lots of twins have problems with: the “twinly we”.

Stephanie and I ourselves have had problems with the “twinly we”. Of course, I use “we” when I am standing with Stephanie or with a group of my friends, when I’m referring to a larger quantity of people than just myself – that’s only natural. But what makes things confusing is when I end up using “we” when I am not physically in close proximity to Stephanie. Stephanie and I have always had this problem, especially when we were younger. We grew up in a pretty isolated area, where we were each other’s best — and only — friend. Therefore, everything was always about the two of us, together, never just one of us. Actually, the longest time we’ve ever been apart is a couple of days – we really wouldn’t know what to do if we were separated for a longer amount of time. And so our POC – our “pronoun of choice” – became “we” instead of “I”. When we finally moved to a really populated city, and began to go to school and interact more with other kids, our pronoun preference eventually started to work itself out to an “I”, but the “we” still slipped out a lot.

I decided to look up about the “twinly we” and found that lots of other twins have experienced this same confusion of pronouns. This website provided some great information for twins and people who are interested in twins, discussing the difficulties for twins when faced with the “we” versus “I” pronoun confusion. Children who are not twins, or another multiple, learn around the age of 3-4 to refer to themselves as “I”, and to distinguish themselves from the other people in their life. For twins, this stage is not the “I” stage, but is actually the “we” stage of life. While other children learn to identify themselves as an individual person, twins face a problem known as individuation, an issue that hinders them from seeing themselves as an individual. They learn to use a “unit” style of identification – “we”, “us”, and “them”.

Even in their adult lives, many twins still slip into this habit; some twins, even if they live and work halfway across the world from each other, find themselves lapsing back into their “twinly we”. One twin talks about the difficulties she faced with individuation:

“Even into our mid-twenties we often used the pronoun “we” in place of “I” during conversations. I remember one time during a job interview having to give the interviewer a quick explanation why I was always saying we: “I’m actually an identical twin and we both worked for these same employers together”. I guess it finally wore off though cause I find myself saying it a lot less these days.”

ImageNow that you know the secret to the “twinly we”, the next time you suspect someone of being an undercover monarch, you’ll know that there is just as good a chance that they might be a twin instead. If you are a twin, or other multiple, have you had a similar experience with your pronouns? Have you found it hard to distinguish between the “us” and “me” throughout life? Even if you aren’t a multiple, maybe if you’re a parent or a friend, have you noticed the use of “we” in any funny or memorable experiences? Any stories you have about your experience with the “twinly we”  would be amazing to hear.

But hey, I guess it wouldn’t be so bad if you could be a twin AND be a monarch or mastermind genius who could potentially rule the world through the pronoun “we”, so therefore…

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original picture link “majestic we” : http://darth-synge.deviantart.com/art/We-Support-The-Majestic-Plural-158677746
t-shirt original picture link: http://www.zazzle.com/king_crown_t_shirts-235033236945953894
information:  http://twinsrealm.com/twintext2.htm
card picture link: http://www.big-2.net/the-truth-about-the-four-kings/

~ Just as a sidenote, even this post was difficult for me to write, because I kept having to switch between “I” and “we” when talking about my experience and the shared experience of myself and Stephanie. So much confusion over pronouns. I guess this just proves that the “twinly we” really does still effect me a lot! ~